My handbag is too big and too full and too heavy. I bought a new one just before Christmas, and it’s been annoying me since just after Christmas.
Once upon a time I used to just carry my wallet, phone and keys in a tiny little bag. During the semester I would also have a pen and my student diary, but I’d leave them at home during term breaks, and would usually change handbags on weekends. If I didn't need it while I was out, why bother lugging it around with me!
When I had my first baby my handbag contained:
- travel size baby wipes
- one disposable nappy
- glasses case (I now wear glasses full time and prefer to wear sunglasses when I’m outside, and obviously need prescription sunglasses)
- a muslin wrap which I used as a breastfeeding cover, or a change mat, or a light blanket, or to wipe up spills.
- when the baby was a bit older I also kept a small container with a couple of biscuits in it, and a drink bottle, and left the wrap out because I didn’t really use it anymore.
I kept two more spare nappies and a change of clothes in the car, and if I knew I would need more than that I would take it with me.
But, seeing as somehow in between babies I’ve managed to make my whole life incredibly more complicated, I’ve now ended up with a huge handbag with far too much in it. Well, I think it is huge. Apparently it’s not that big.
In my handbag today I have:
- glasses case
- small notebook for writing things down when I think of them at the shops
- larger notebook for when I want to do some writing at a coffee shop while Big Boy is at Kindy and if Small Boy is asleep
- a disposable nappy
- a slightly larger travel case of baby wipes (but it is refillable, so I don’t mind too much that it is bigger)
- muslin wrap
- spare clothes for the baby and spare underpants for Big Boy.
- a folder with crayons and a notebook for Big Boy’s amusement
- a small pencil case containing a pen, lipgloss, lip balm, an emery board, and a tube of Pure Wipes
- A small stack of loyalty cards for various stores all tied up with a rubber band (it means I don’t have them all in my wallet and can have a smaller wallet but still have the loyalty cards)
My bag is twice as big because I have twice as much stuff in there. I don’t hear my phone ring, and I have trouble finding my keys. And guess what. I don’t even need it all. I don’t need the Pure Wipes when I’ve got baby wipes anyway: they’re left from when I only had a toilet trained but still messy toddler. I forget about the lip balm because it’s tucked away inside a case, and don’t really use it that often anyway. I don’t use either notebook enough to warrant carrying them all the time. I managed without spare clothes in my bag when my first son was a baby, I’m sure I can still manage now.
Sadly, I spent a lot of money on this bag. I wanted a nice leather handbag that would see me out five years or more, and had been looking few a weeks weeks at different bags and had narrowed down between two or three bags. I had a 30% off voucher for a particular bag store, and had decided I would get a bag there. But then I saw this other bag, one that I hadn’t seen before. It would definitely hold all I needed (or didn’t need, as it turns out), and it was very stylish bag. It was black, not the red that I was hoping for this time, but it was very nice. It also cost somewhat more than what I had intended on spending. But it was ‘perfect’ and i had to have it. And the kids were getting grumpy and my husband was starting to get that ‘just make a decision’ look in his eyes. It was an impulse purchase.
It is still a lovely bag. It’s just too big for me. I might try selling it and getting something smaller and a little more wieldy. But first I need to get all the unnecessary junk out of it!